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Who Do You Want To Be This Christmas?
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| What kind of person do you want to be this Christmas? You get to choose! |
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Can't Say
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| Are you afraid to say "no" to others? Discover where you got this fear and how to move into personal power and emotional freedom. |
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Dare to be Rejected
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| People who have no fear of rejection take more risks and end up going very far in their business, career and personal lives. |
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How to close the sale
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| For many people just the thought of ‘asking for the business‘ or closing the sale, brings about paralyzing fear of rejection and feelings of being too pushy. So what happens? It gets avoided at all costs and that doesn't help anyone.
The problem with letting fear get in the way is that sales drag on way to long and they often get lost as a result of not following-up. Remember if you don't ask, you don't get.
Interestingly, it's very rare for someone to be annoyed with you for following-up, if they have been meaning to call you, you're doing them a favour by saving them time. If they haven't made a decision, that's OK just ask them when you should call them back (so your not bothering them unnecessarily in between). |
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Addictions: Talking as a Form of Resistance
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| Many people have discovered talking as way to avoid being invaded, controlled, or rejected by others. Yet this addiction, as well as many others, being a form of self-abandonment, leads to much suffering. |
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Act to Create It
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| If you want to live your dreams, not only must you decide what you want, turn your dream into measurable goals, break those goals down into specific action steps, and visualize and affirm your desired outcomes -- you must start taking action. |
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Good Things Come to Those Who Ask
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| Asking for what you need is probably the most underutilized tool for people. And yet, amazing requests have been granted to people simply because they've asked for it! |
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Lying as a Form of Control
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| Did you learn to lie as a child to protect yourself from rejection? Are you still using this form of control, which is undermining your self-esteem? Discover how to heal lying. |
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How To Win Over Your Prospects
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| Many Network Marketers and MLM distributors are fearful of using the telephone to make contact with interested prospects. Why is this? Fear of rejection is usually the number one reason for not talking to people on the phone. So how can you get rid of this fear, it is a real issue in many cases, and often is the difference between success or failure for many. |
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Addiction to Gossip
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| Are you addicted to gossiping about others or do you know others who gossip? Discover the underlying cause of gossiping. |
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Top 20 Requirements - How Salespeople Can Be Better at Closing
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| While salespeople can get better at closing, closing is an outcome, and with the exception of real estate and banking, not really an event. When we evaluate sales forces and look at their ability to close, they may possess some of the strengths and skills that are part of the Sales Core Competency called Closing, but most of those attributes are used prior to, not during, closing time. The ability to close depends on the following 20 variables (in no particular order) that a salesperson brings to the table - or not: |
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Playing the Big R Game
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| What is one of people's greatest fears -- the fear of dying? Of public speaking? Spiders? The I.R.S.?
Sure, many people share these fears, but the one I'd like to explore today I believe is larger than all of these put together.
It's the fear of REJECTION -- the Big R.
And while a lot of people in sales struggle to overcome this fear every day, no one is immune. Let's face it, one of our greatest desires is to be accepted and loved. And often times, being rejected feels like the exact opposite.
So, how might we overcome this innate fear of rejection? How about a little 'purposeful play' to lighten the load. Here's a game I created over twenty years ago that served me well then and with a little modification, a number of other times. |
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A Forgotten Secret of Sales Success
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| Brad learned early in his career that left to his own devices, he would find ways to avoid picking up the phone and making calls. Like so many salespeople, he suffered from call reluctance, fear of rejection, fear of failure, and more. Over time, he learned to trick himself, play games and, most importantly use purpose, motivation and fear to assure that he was consistently filling his pipeline. Listen to the show to hear more about this compelling topic. |
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Rejection Pain
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| The link between physical pain and the pain we experience when we are rejected. Fascinating similarities. |
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"Our salespeople aren't asking for the business!"
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| Some may find the concept of salespeople not asking for the business, strange even ridiculous given 'the close' has traditionally been a salesperson's end-game. This is analogous to a football player running down the sideline, struggling to avoid the clutches of would-be tacklers - to just sit down on their bum and scratch their head an inch before the goal line. It's just doesn't make sense, yet in sales, this type of conducts is surprisingly common. |
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What Can Kids Teach Us About Business?
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| How a 6th grader at their 1st dance can teach even the most seasoned business professional how to be persistant and never give up. |
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Fear: Taming the enemy within
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| Every day I speak to managers, executives and sales personnel about what holds them back from achieving the success they want and earning the incomes they desire. Every day I hear the same thing: Fear. Fear of getting a no, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of rejection and the list goes on. But fear has a structure and when you know the structure, you can make it disappear.
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Steering Yourself towards the Path You Choose
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| The vast majority of us have to face a daily grind of work, problems, blame and still be answerable to someone else.
Who wants this kind of life? |
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"If I'm Perfect, No One Will Reject Me" - Healing Perfectionism
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| Discover the 3 big false beliefs that lead to the burden of perfectionism, and the truth that heals these beliefs. |
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What Causes Your Salespeople to Fail in this Economy?
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| Bob was getting anxious over what to write to a suspect that blew him off. The prospect canceled an appointment and was vague about whether or not he would reschedule. This stopped Bob in his tracks and he literally spent an entire day getting feedback on what his email should say. Not only is Bob wasting time, it is time that could be spent finding and identifying additional opportunities, moving existing opportunities along and connecting with customers or clients and collecting referrals. So what causes Bob to do this and could we have predicted this behavior? |
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Creative Avoidance
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| How many of you procrastinate when it comes to contacting leads, calling customers, prospecting, or following up? Have I hit a nerve? You are not alone, it is in our nature to avoid confrontation because of our fear of rejection. Our primary job as salespeople is to attack that fear head on and convert “NO’s” into “YES’s”. |
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McDonald’s Success is Built on Acceptance & Rejection
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| The Fear of Rejection and the Power of Acceptance! |
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Home Party Sales Success: How To Overcome Buying Objections, Increase Home Party Sales And Get More Home Party Recruits/Business Builders!
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| Many a home party consultants find it very difficult to realize a profit through their home party business. As a direct sales home party marketing coach and consultant, these are the obstacles I continue to hear that many in direct selling continue to face:
*I am not able to sell
*My living room, garage and bedrooms have all turned into a product storage warehouse!
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Sales Training – Salespeople Tips on Crossing the Barbed Wire Fence of Sales Reluctance
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| Sales people can be fenced in with sales reluctance, like barbed wire. The thorny fences keep people (and animals) both in and out of certain areas. There are options for salespeople to cross over barbed wire, sales reluctance, with less pain than from the reluctance itself. |
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Change 1 Thing To Move From Hating To Loving Sales!
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| Why do we hate to sell? Fear of rejection? Makes us feel pushy? We don’t like to be aggressive or bother people? Okay – but why then do we love to recommend? We love to recommend new restaurants to our friends, recommend movies, suggest our friends try our doctor or favorite babysitter. Why do we like to do recommend but we hate to sell? |
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SHYNESS INHIBITS SUCCESS
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| To succeed you have to overcome shyness. |
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Time Management Tips to get more every day
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| Time management can be a real challenge for anyone in sales. We have demands placed on us by our company, our manager, our clients, our family, our friends. Balance in life is so important, so here are some tips on time management specifically for sales professionals. Using thee ideas will enable you to get more done in lass time every day and ensure you have "self time" and "family time" to yourself. |
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7 Pitfalls of Using Email to Sell
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| * Are you sending e-mails to prospects instead of calling them? |
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Is This Four Letter Word Hurting Your Business?
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| What’s stopping you from doing the things you know you want to do in your business? Not enough time and a lack of focus can be obstacles to taking action. But take a closer look and see if these are the real issues. |
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What Is A Life Coach
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| Dear Jane,
What is a life coach and how do I know if I need one?
What I do as a life coach is help my clients recognize and let go of the sabotaging thoughts and behaviors that have undermined their success, joy, and intimacy. We all have sabotaging thoughts and behaviors; sometimes it takes someone else to help us see them and to believe in us more than we believe in ourselves. So I’m also an energetic cheerleader and true believer. I will often see the possibilities for a client’s future before he or she can. My job is to inspire each person I work with to create an extraordinary vision and to become adept with the tools to create that vision. |
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Overcoming Your Fear of Rejection
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| Dear Jane,
I have suffered with a paralyzing fear of rejection for most of my life. This leaves me unable to be as assertive in my private and professional life as I would like to be, and sometimes it is crippling. Intellectually I know I shouldn’t be so worried about what other people think, but the feelings are still there. How do I overcome this irrational feeling?
When you have a fear that is irrational, you can’t sit by the sidelines figuring it out. You need to take small steps towards your fear. What kinds of situations make you worry about rejection? List these. Then put them in order from least fearful to most fearful. Start with your least paralyzing situation and think of one action step you are willing to take that addresses the fear rather than letting it run you. |
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Little Black Book of Connections by Jeffrey Gitomer
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| Make this book your BEST friend as it can help you connect with influential people. Rating: 5/5 |
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How to conquer our fear of failure
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| Our fear of failure is probably the single greatest obstacle to success in our adult lives. We become totally preoccupied with not making a mistake and with seeking approval. |
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10 Ways to Get Your Marketing Unstuck
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| Marketing yourself can be a confronting process, bringing up fear of rejection, commentary from your inner critic, feelings of incompetence, and other discomforts. If you let them, these inner saboteurs can stop you dead in your tracks. Here are ten ways to quickly break through internal barriers and get your marketing unstuck. |
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Do You Isolate?
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| If you tend to isolate, and you believe that isolating protects you from getting hurt, you might be surprised to learn of the harm you are causing yourself. |
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Other fear of rejection Related Articles
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Transforming Fear
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| Perhaps you have heard that if you fear something “Feel the fear and do it anyway.” That advice can be helpful to a point, but it has one very significant drawback: The fear is still there.
So if you have a fear of cold calling, or a fear of failure, or a fear of success, or a fear of rejection, or – even more likely — some combination of all of these fears, summoning your personal power and acting in spite these fears is a brave thing to do, but as exhausting as running uphill with bricks in your pocket.
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Professional Sales People Do Not Fear Rejection
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| Professional Sales People Do Not Fear Rejection
Wrong! Sales people are still people and they have the same basic fears as regular people. They learned adaptability strategies to help them reframe rejection and not take it personally.
Rejection is harder to handle for some than for others.
How do you not take rejection personally? A better question might be “in what ways can you not take rejection personally?”
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Overcoming Your Fear of Rejection
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| Dear Jane,
I have suffered with a paralyzing fear of rejection for most of my life. This leaves me unable to be as assertive in my private and professional life as I would like to be, and sometimes it is crippling. Intellectually I know I shouldn’t be so worried about what other people think, but the feelings are still there. How do I overcome this irrational feeling?
When you have a fear that is irrational, you can’t sit by the sidelines figuring it out. You need to take small steps towards your fear. What kinds of situations make you worry about rejection? List these. Then put them in order from least fearful to most fearful. Start with your least paralyzing situation and think of one action step you are willing to take that addresses the fear rather than letting it run you. |
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Successful Networking Top 10 Tips
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| Networking - we all have to do it, but some of us fear it more than a manual labour job. It is probably connected to our fear of public speaking and fear of public rejection. Here is a neat list of the top 10 things you can do to ensure your networking event goes smoothly and comfortably and produces results for you. |
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The Give and Take of Rejection
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| Why is it that one tiny word, "No", can evoke so much fear into the hearts and minds of so many? Part of everyday life as a leader/manager requires you to handle rejection day in and day out. How well do you cope? What can you do to more effectively handle rejection? |
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Fear: Taming the enemy within
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| Every day I speak to managers, executives and sales personnel about what holds them back from achieving the success they want and earning the incomes they desire. Every day I hear the same thing: Fear. Fear of getting a no, fear of failure, fear of success, fear of rejection and the list goes on. But fear has a structure and when you know the structure, you can make it disappear.
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Successful People Face Their Fears and Act
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| Fear is the enemy of self confidence. Self confident people face their fears and act. Procrastination is the manifestation of fear. When you find yourself procrastinating, figure out what scares you about the situation. Is it fear of failure? Is it fear of success? Is it fear of rejection? Is it fear of being embarrassed? Is it fear of the unknown? Once you've figured out why you are afraid, do three things; admit your fear to yourself, embrace your fear, and take action. Action is the antidote to fear. In most cases, you'll choose wisely and your fears won't be realized. In the cases when you choose poorly, you'll find that failure isn't as catastrophic as you imagined. Successful people learn from their failures. |
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Fear and Relationships: Two More Tips for Value Based Networking
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| Very often, fear is what keeps us from maximizing our contacts with other people. Human beings are full of fears: fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of looking ignorant or stupid, fear of hearing the word “no.” What you should really be afraid of is missing an opportunity because you didn’t make the contact. |
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Do you have the Courage to ASK?
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| When I speak to audiences around the world, I always ask, “Why don’t people have the courage to ask for what they want?” The answers are fear of rejection, fear of losing face or fear of being embarrassed. All of them live with the fear of what may happen because they do not have the courage to ask.
For now, let me explain a few things about asking. Firstly, it takes courage to ask but if you don’t ask, you don’t get. Am I right?
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Playing the Big R Game
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| What is one of people's greatest fears -- the fear of dying? Of public speaking? Spiders? The I.R.S.?
Sure, many people share these fears, but the one I'd like to explore today I believe is larger than all of these put together.
It's the fear of REJECTION -- the Big R.
And while a lot of people in sales struggle to overcome this fear every day, no one is immune. Let's face it, one of our greatest desires is to be accepted and loved. And often times, being rejected feels like the exact opposite.
So, how might we overcome this innate fear of rejection? How about a little 'purposeful play' to lighten the load. Here's a game I created over twenty years ago that served me well then and with a little modification, a number of other times. |
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